Whether you’ve recently been broken up with or ended a relationship yourself, or are simply going through a rough patch with your significant other, it can take a toll on your heart. Emotional exhaustion takes over and stress, disappointment, and sadness begin to be the standard of your days. Relationships are tough, and loving someone isn’t always easy. People can let us down, and we can just as easily do the same. Lying, cheating, unmet expectations, hurtful actions, and piercing words happen because we live in a fallen world. And we’re not always on the receiving end. Sometimes we are the ones who make the mistake, and sometimes it hurts just as bad.
You might be on the receiving end of a break up letter or in the trenches of a defining moment in your relationship, whatever the case, in the midst of these relationship problems, remember these 5 things:
God is close to the broken-hearted.
Is your heart broken? I know this can be one of the most painful things. You feel lonely and alone, but the truth is you’re more surrounded than you think. God sees your pain; he sees your broken heart. And in those moments, his presence is ever-near. Lean into him. Surround yourself with all things Jesus: read the powerful words of truth in the Bible, blast praise music and worship the One who cares so much about you, and surround yourself with Christian voices who can help you see the light where you only feel darkness.
His plans can not be thwarted.
You’re not that powerful. Maybe you made a mistake or feel like you ruined your relationship forever, or maybe it was your partner who made it feel that way. Whatever the case, the truth is, if it is God’s will that you be together, it is him, and only him, that can and will make that happen.
No matter what you do, no matter what your partner does, at the end of the day it is God’s plan for each of your lives that will prevail.
Together or not, it will be good, and it will be right.
God is the giver of peace.
In all situations, seek him and receive peace to guard your hurting heart and frantic mind. If you’re anything like me, in the middle of conflict it is so easy to find yourself making up scenarios and rehearsing conversations in your head, some of which break your heart even more. There is no peace in this. Instead, I urge you to calm your thoughts and steady your heart by latching on to the peace so amazing it is unexplainable. It is how you will make it through this well.
You don’t have to worry.
I don’t know what is happening in your life or what’s going on in your relationship, but I do know one thing for sure: God’s got this. He’s got you and your partner. He is in control of the situation. He knows who and what you need in your life and knows how to make sure you have it and experience it in perfect time.
It may feel like this is the perfect time to worry, but just the opposite is true. This is the perfect time to trust in your good, good Father.
Nothing can separate you from the love of God.
This is not our human – to – human experience. Many things separate us from the love of others, and you may be experiencing the effects of this right now. But this is something we never have to even consider with God. No matter what – no matter if you made a mistake or your partner spoke poorly of you or you are unsure about the future – God will always love you. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever, and therefore, so is his love.
So let the love of God fill you until you are overflowing, then move forward from there: close to God, in peace, worry-free, trusting the plans of God are good and will always overcome any earthly circumstance you face.