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No One Cares What I Have to Say, So Why Should I Keep Writing?

Writing

“Why should I keep writing when no one seems to care what I have to say?” This is a question I’ve asked myself a lot since starting this blog nearly four years ago.  While there were many different reasons I chose to start relationshipswell, one of the main reasons was because a publisher I was

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The Turn After the Trauma

Experiencing trauma as a child–whether a one-time event or an ongoing experience you had to endure–makes you feel powerless, vulnerable, and alone.  As a child, you often don’t have power over the situation but instead are a recipient of other people’s decisions–indirectly affected by the thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors of those around you.  For

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On making friends: we’re not as different as it may seem.

The one thing they don’t teach you in college—ok, they don’t teach you a lot of things, but this is a big one—they don’t teach you how to make friends out in the real world. College, and even high school, are ergonomically designed for you to make friends. They put you in a room with

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Finding the strength to move past your pain and love again.

Love puts you in a vulnerable position. So for those of us who have been hurt, taken advantage of, or wronged by someone we trusted, vulnerability may be particularly hard. Putting yourself in a position where there is a chance you will be hurt again, left again, abandoned again may feel too risky. But there

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The relationship that changes everything.

When you decided to give it all to God in humble surrender, this means your relationship with God needs to become your first and most important priority (not that it shouldn’t have been already, but now it’s even more vital). It needs to go deeper, become more intimate, more intentional, more frequent, more. This is

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I don’t care anymore, and it’s a good thing.

I told God, “I don’t care anymore.” And He told me I finally understood humble surrender. I’m a planner. I always have been, and it is a trait that has followed me—sometimes causing problems, but always providing me with a sense of stability and safety. But when it comes to my life, and subsequently, my

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