Tag: Relationships

The Turn After the Trauma

Experiencing trauma as a child–whether a one-time event or an ongoing experience you had to endure–makes you feel powerless, vulnerable, and alone.  As a child, you often don’t have power over the situation but instead are a recipient of other people’s decisions–indirectly affected by the thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors of those around you.  For

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“I don’t want it if You’re not in it,” but is that true?

There’s a Christian song by Sarah Reeves that I’ve heard on the radio lately, and it has me thinking. The chorus of the song, Just Want You, starts with these words, “I don’t want it if You’re not in it. I just want You.” As I sing the words, I stop and wonder, is that

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The joy of pursuing.

The joy of pursuing

Have you ever heard someone say that for guys “it’s all about the chase?” While I don’t think this is 100% true, there is something to be said about the joy found in pursuing—not just a potential mate, but a potential life. Going after what you want, desire, and love brings a rush of joy,

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Let tears have their place: finding balance with your emotions.

According to Ed Sheeran, “it’s alright to cry;” even his dad does sometimes. And while I wouldn’t go taking all your advice from Ed, he does make a valid statement here. Whereas some people see it as a sign of weakness, crying isn’t actually a bad thing. Sure, it often comes as a result of

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The choices you don’t realize you’re making are the life you are creating.

When my alarm clock rudely wakes me up in the morning and I’m tired and don’t want to get out of bed—but the alarm clock won’t stop going off every five minutes until I do—it feels like I have no choice but to go to work. I have to. But in reality, nobody is holding

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On making friends: we’re not as different as it may seem.

The one thing they don’t teach you in college—ok, they don’t teach you a lot of things, but this is a big one—they don’t teach you how to make friends out in the real world. College, and even high school, are ergonomically designed for you to make friends. They put you in a room with

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5 things worth focusing on in 2020.

Do you feel like the years keep passing by faster and faster? With so many things grabbing for our attention these days, it can be hard to focus on the things that really matter and get the most out of a new year. When we let the year pass by without being intentional about how

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Finding the strength to move past your pain and love again.

Love puts you in a vulnerable position. So for those of us who have been hurt, taken advantage of, or wronged by someone we trusted, vulnerability may be particularly hard. Putting yourself in a position where there is a chance you will be hurt again, left again, abandoned again may feel too risky. But there

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Praise: the biggest slap in the face.

When I was a little girl, I was terrified of storms because where I grew up, thunder storms often turned into tornados, and tornados can be terrifying.  Sometimes the storms we face in life can be really scary too. Maybe you’re in the midst of a storm right now and you’re scared because you can’t

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The relationship that changes everything.

When you decided to give it all to God in humble surrender, this means your relationship with God needs to become your first and most important priority (not that it shouldn’t have been already, but now it’s even more vital). It needs to go deeper, become more intimate, more intentional, more frequent, more. This is

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