Category: Personal Growth

No One Cares What I Have to Say, So Why Should I Keep Writing?

Writing

“Why should I keep writing when no one seems to care what I have to say?” This is a question I’ve asked myself a lot since starting this blog nearly four years ago.  While there were many different reasons I chose to start relationshipswell, one of the main reasons was because a publisher I was

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The Turn After the Trauma

Experiencing trauma as a child–whether a one-time event or an ongoing experience you had to endure–makes you feel powerless, vulnerable, and alone.  As a child, you often don’t have power over the situation but instead are a recipient of other people’s decisions–indirectly affected by the thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors of those around you.  For

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From Hopeless and Food-Full to Hopeful

Food.  Nourishment. Enjoyment. Community. Creativity.  Food.  Overindulgent. Painful. Isolation. Addiction.  It isn’t a “common” addiction. To some, it isn’t considered an addiction at all. But for me…for me, food–sugar in particular–was my addiction. It was where I turned when I was having a bad day, a hard day, a sad day, a long day, a

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Doing what needs to be done, even when you don’t feel like doing it.

Have you read or heard people telling you that now, with all this extra time, you should be super productive? I don’t know about you, but for me, this “extra” time doesn’t feel all that great. There is also extra stress, extra pressure, extra emotions to navigate; extra anxiety, depression, and effort put forth to

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“I don’t want it if You’re not in it,” but is that true?

There’s a Christian song by Sarah Reeves that I’ve heard on the radio lately, and it has me thinking. The chorus of the song, Just Want You, starts with these words, “I don’t want it if You’re not in it. I just want You.” As I sing the words, I stop and wonder, is that

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The joy of pursuing.

The joy of pursuing

Have you ever heard someone say that for guys “it’s all about the chase?” While I don’t think this is 100% true, there is something to be said about the joy found in pursuing—not just a potential mate, but a potential life. Going after what you want, desire, and love brings a rush of joy,

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Let tears have their place: finding balance with your emotions.

According to Ed Sheeran, “it’s alright to cry;” even his dad does sometimes. And while I wouldn’t go taking all your advice from Ed, he does make a valid statement here. Whereas some people see it as a sign of weakness, crying isn’t actually a bad thing. Sure, it often comes as a result of

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The choices you don’t realize you’re making are the life you are creating.

When my alarm clock rudely wakes me up in the morning and I’m tired and don’t want to get out of bed—but the alarm clock won’t stop going off every five minutes until I do—it feels like I have no choice but to go to work. I have to. But in reality, nobody is holding

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I shoot down my own dreams; why do I do that?

“I know one of your weaknesses,” he said. After sharing what I believe are some of his strengths and weaknesses, I asked for my sweetheart to share his thoughts about me. “You shoot everything down.” Now you may be thinking I’m that person who nobody wants to go to with their idea or suggestion because

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5 things worth focusing on in 2020.

Do you feel like the years keep passing by faster and faster? With so many things grabbing for our attention these days, it can be hard to focus on the things that really matter and get the most out of a new year. When we let the year pass by without being intentional about how

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